People who need help with marriage problems would need to know what are the possible causes for a break down in their relationship.
One thing you would need to do is to find out what the problem in your relationship concerns. Does it involve troubles in managing your finances? Are you having difficulties juggling your work and your family at the same time? Is there a lack of intimacy between you and your spouse? Are you two not talking or understanding each other properly? Or do you find that you are no longer the person you once were and want to go back to who you were before marrying? There are also many other questions you could ask to find out what is the trouble you two are facing. Plus, while analyzing your situation, you might even realize that there is more than just the surface problem in your relationship.
After finding out what is the problem in your relationship, you need to take action to solve it. Doing so would need some proper communication between you and your spouse. In other words, you two need to speak clearly and understand each other properly. If you two are having difficulties getting your ideas across to each other, you could seek an eternal party to help you mediate, such as a counsellor who is trained to deal with relationship problems.
Saving your relationship requires time and effort from both you and your spouse. You would need to go about your daily lives, but you need to spend the spare time you have to finding a solution to your problem and fixing it. Your spouse also needs to put in the time and effort to help you in your attempts to find a solution, and while this happens, take the chance to spend quality time with your spouse. This could indirectly help you strengthen the bond you two have.
When quality time is involved, you two could consider taking a further step. Set aside some time, perhaps on a regular basis, to go out on a romantic date or have a romantic dinner. It reminds you two that you are married and are sharing your lives together, allowing you to remember the love you share. It does not necessarily have to involve big expenditures, because you could just go for a walk along the beach at night to get away from the stresses of life and think of nothing more than the beautiful things in your relationship.
When you two discuss your problems together or hold conversations about other things, do listen to your spouse. Your spouse is voicing thoughts and feelings that would otherwise have been buried under the great demands of life and remaining neutral and calm as you two talk would help both of you understand each other better and learn how to take care of each other better.
Then, you need to believe in each other. Your marriage is brought about by love, care and trust, and believing in each other when others do not is one of the most important things in a relationship. Rely on your partner to do what is right for the relationship and the family and if your spouse claims to be making amends, do believe it. Again, listen to what your spouse has to say and if you find that things may be more difficult for your spouse to act alone, you could always offer to give a helping hand.
Most of all, you need to learn how to forgive and forget. Everyone makes mistakes, including you, and what is important is whether you are apologetic for it, making amends for it, and learn from it. The same should go to your spouse who is also a human being like you. Learning to forgive your spouse for any mistakes made would give encouragement to stay determined to improve and find ways to resolve the problem and prevent it from happening again in the future.